http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net Thoughts by Jeff Brandler, LMFT Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:39:48 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Thanks for reading this at psych central, but please keep reading a Week in the Life at www.changeispossible.org/blog http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2010/03/04/goodbye/ With insurance plans charging more and giving less, psychologists might have to do this: http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/12/31/i-guess-it-could-come-to-this/ Psychotherapy is  challenging and interesting. One of the most important ingrediants to therapy is trust .  Over time, as the trust increases,  people get more comfortable and more intimate in their disclosures.  As more and more of these dislosures happen, people share their secrets.  What is a secret? What's the impact of holding onto secrets?  What ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/12/30/secrets/ After the Jets win over the Oakland Raiders on Sunday, I was reminded of the phrase that Al Davis  the maverick owner of the Raiders is famous for:   . Couples need a version of his great slogan--"Just Validate Baby!!!" In a previous post, I addressed the need for communication using the 15 words of ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/10/27/just-validate-baby/ Just another example of coming attractions........................................... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/10/19/intimacy-is-a-lonely-problem/ A few weeks ago I was eating cheesecake from Mike's Pastries, and I had this thought.  Boy if people knew about this chocolate chip cheesecake, they would be really envious.  After eating  this delicious cheesecake it occurred to me how envy is really an interesting feeling.  It's filled with other ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/09/25/envy-is-a-4-letter-word/ On a day filled with numerology, I must get into the act.  Certain groups have the 12 steps. There are the 4 agreements.   Jews at their Passover seder have the 4 Questions.  I give you the 2 questions.   Now you might ask what 2 questions could a person ask?  It's not questions 67 ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/09/09/the-2-questions/ A little tease for the next blog entitled "The 2 questions"  Coming Soon!!!!!!!  http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/08/11/numbers/ Webster defines vacation as "a respite or a time of respite from something " or "a period spent away from home or business in travel or recreation. "  These are all nice and correct definitions.  To me a vacation is a recharging of our internal batteries.  If a good night's sleep ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/07/15/vacation/ The beauty of Sirius radio.  You can drive around and listen to anything.  You have choices.  Last week Sirius radio gave us Dave Matthews radio for one week.   I listened to this station a lot.  There were live songs, cover versions of popular songs, and older songs.  While driving to ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2009/06/17/these-crimes-between-us-grow-deeper/