http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net Thoughts by Jeff Brandler, LMFT Sun, 04 May 2008 15:08:29 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2008/05/03/some-mothers-day-problems-are-worse-than-others/ http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2008/04/07/a-new-definition-of-couples-therapy/ One of the major issues that couples face is how they communicate what they want and what they need.  Some do it quite well.  Some do it quite poorly complete with mega-conflicts, and at times, ugly incidents.  Others don't do it at all.  They choose to just work on  the ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2008/03/25/i-was-thinking-of-you/ http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2008/02/11/what-really-happens-after-couples-counseling/ During the holiday season I was blessed to get a new book by Charles Grodin entitled  If I only knew then...  The gist of the book is that friends of Charles Grodin, actors, actresses, politicians etc. described a situation in which they made a mistake. They then added  what they learned ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2008/02/08/you-cannot-have-a-rainbow-without-a-storm/ What do politicians, certain entertainers and Roger Clemens have in common?  They lie!!!!  Some more than others, but always for a purpose. According to the online dictionary a lie is: 1. A false statement deliberately presented as being true; a falsehood. 2. Something meant to deceive or give a wrong impression. Clearly this is ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2008/01/17/lies-lies-and-more-lies/ http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2007/12/16/difficulties-of-the-trade/ As the holiday season rolls upon us,  I thought I would give some thoughts, ideas, and recommendations regarding  some of my favorite books about change.  Why write about this as we are steaming our way through December, you might ask?  Is this some cheesy way to get out of writing about something new? Well yes....and... ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2007/12/05/a-few-of-my-favorites/ OK indulge me on this one.  Pretend that you are a sponge sitting on the edge of a sink.  Everyday, someone does the dishes, and you can hear and see the water running.  But not a drop touches you.  Everyday you long for that 1 drop of water that will make ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2007/11/06/dry-sponge-theory/ Imagine a radio station that plays the same song over and over--(I don't mean the way FM radio is now where you hear the same songs over and over.)  I mean 1 song repeating and repeating and repeating.  Imagine that song being a steady diet of thoughts/feelings of guilt, shame, ... http://jeffbrandler.psychcentral.net/2007/10/19/the-music-must-change/