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A new definition of couple’s therapy

Monday, April 7th, 2008

I was thinking of you….

Tuesday, March 25th, 2008

One of the major issues that couples face is how they communicate what they want and what they need.  Some do it quite well.  Some do it quite poorly complete with mega-conflicts, and at times, ugly incidents.  Others don’t do it at all.  They choose to just work on  the “you know” principle–that is my […]

What Really Happens After Couple’s Counseling

Monday, February 11th, 2008

You Cannot Have A Rainbow without A Storm

Friday, February 8th, 2008

During the holiday season I was blessed to get a new book by Charles Grodin entitled  If I only knew then…  The gist of the book is that friends of Charles Grodin, actors, actresses, politicians etc. described a situation in which they made a mistake. They then added  what they learned from that mistake. One person, […]

Lies, Lies, and More Lies

Thursday, January 17th, 2008

What do politicians, certain entertainers and Roger Clemens have in common?  They lie!!!!  Some more than others, but always for a purpose. According to the online dictionary a lie is: 1. A false statement deliberately presented as being true; a falsehood. 2. Something meant to deceive or give a wrong impression. Clearly this is an […]

Difficulties of the trade

Sunday, December 16th, 2007

A few of my favorites

Wednesday, December 5th, 2007

As the holiday season rolls upon us,  I thought I would give some thoughts, ideas, and recommendations regarding  some of my favorite books about change.  Why write about this as we are steaming our way through December, you might ask?  Is this some cheesy way to get out of writing about something new? Well yes….and… no.  Sure who wants to […]

Dry Sponge Theory

Tuesday, November 6th, 2007

OK indulge me on this one.  Pretend that you are a sponge sitting on the edge of a sink.  Everyday, someone does the dishes, and you can hear and see the water running.  But not a drop touches you.  Everyday you long for that 1 drop of water that will make you feel better, but everyday […]

The Music Must Change

Friday, October 19th, 2007

Imagine a radio station that plays the same song over and over–(I don’t mean the way FM radio is now where you hear the same songs over and over.)  I mean 1 song repeating and repeating and repeating.  Imagine that song being a steady diet of thoughts/feelings of guilt, shame, remorse and self-loathing(GSRSL).  Imagine the […]


Wednesday, October 3rd, 2007

On Saturday Night after winning the Middleweight title,  boxer Kelly Pavlik, in a post fight interview, was asked, “what were you thoughts after almost getting knocked out in round 2?’  He stated “sh*t it’s going to be a long night!!!!” We’ve all had days like this.  In fact, after my own recent  fiasco’s with electricians, […]