Life’s too short

The title of this entry seems pretty obvious.  Read the newspaper especially the obit section–everyone dies; some at a way too early age. So what’s the point.  Look at how much time gets wasted on a daily basis dealing with  relationship ambivalence–For example,  look at your current relationship.  Is it good? Is it meaningful?  Is your partner the person you thought they were?  Have they changed? For the better or worse?  On the other hand, do they have good strengths and assets?  Are they a good parent? Are they a good provider?  Is the idea of starting over just too scary?

There are many people that I’ve seen who struggle with these questions. These questions are confusing, and fearful.  They create sleepless nights and stress.  They provoke anger and resentment.  They lead to  asking others “what should I do?” as if someone else has the magic elixir to this perplexing question.

People that I see spend weeks, months, and in some cases years asking and analyzing questions about their relationships.  They see themselves age, they see time passing by, they see others making changes.  They can’t “pull the trigger” on action.  They have anxiety with a captial F(FEAR) and ask themselves the question “why can’t I make this decision?”  Of course there is no answer to this question.  There may be many answers to this question, and for each person those answers are different.

I unfortunately have worked with people who have lost a loved one at way too early an age.  When I see their reaction to this untimely death it reconfirms the “life’s too short” concept.  It brings back  the “One Day at a Time”, “Live in the Day” “Seize the Day”sayings that are prominent.  It says to me that in order to be in today, we have to do something, anything, in order to make change happen. 

Change occurs by creating action.  Action leads to momentum which leads to more change.  If a person does something towards ending this dilemna, it moves them in a direction.  If they keep making changes, even small changes, momentum will continue.  At some point, they will know their answer.  It may be a scary and bumpy ride, but they will get some clues to the “right” answer.

 If we recognize the obviously statement “Life’s too short” means that we need  work on today’s change, then we can then bring about  our own happiness.  It’s much easier to evaluate a relationship when I am happy about me.

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One Response to “Life’s too short”

  1. A Says:

    Life really IS too short. I just recently watched a dear friend loose her second newborn and I just proved that statement all the more. Seems like at the same time though, the more I realize that, the more it proves that this world sucks and that I’m kinda glad that life is short…

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