A few of my favorites

As the holiday season rolls upon us,  I thought I would give some thoughts, ideas, and recommendations regarding  some of my favorite books about change.  Why write about this as we are steaming our way through December, you might ask?  Is this some cheesy way to get out of writing about something new? Well yes….and… no.  Sure who wants to get on a creative roll with great new ideas when we have a whole new years worth of columns to write!!!!   BUT no–the end of the year is the perfect time to examine the previous year or years, and look towards the next year.  And since change can occur at any time, why not now.  Do you we really have to start to change using those dopey New Year’s Resolutions filled with grandiosity and half-truths?  No,  change can happen before January 1, 2008. 

 The first book that I’d love to recommend is my personal all time favorite–Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.  This book was groundbreaking when it came out, and  some 20 years later, still shakes people out of their caretaking, controlling and overcompensating behaviors. Beattie’s 10 page assessment of Codependency is usually an eye opener.  Her validating and empowering style is one that many people have benefitted from.

Next on our holiday list are 2 books that do very helpful  things for people with disorders.   The Anxiety Workbook and the Depression Workbook both identify the problems and give step by step suggestions for change.  Its workbook format is quite beneficial since  people can write and reflect upon their answers.

The next book is also a workbook.  The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook  is a long time favorite of mine. I’m pleased to say that I have owned every edition of this now 5th edition helper.  This book is the buffet table of workbooks.  Open it up, figure out your symptom(s), find the strategies, use the tools, practice the tools  and feel better.  The best part about the book is that every technique in it works.

And one more gem for the holiday season.  This is a combo, it has a book and workbook. Entitled Stop Walking on Eggshells, this  is  an eyeopening  book for anyone who lives with a person that has Borderline Personality Disorder(BPD).  This book helps the person identify the disorder as well as the effects on the non-BPDer.  It also has useful guidelines for change as well as an excellent set of references for further reading, discovery, and change.

 So there you have 5 books that have helped  many people change.  And since change is possible, good helpful books can be a great start to this process.  Enjoy the books and the beginning of the holiday season.

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